If your internal monologue is getting a little dry and your friends from home have abandoned your group chat, it might be time to reach out and make some friends. Here’s how in six easy steps:
1. Put yourself out there
The best way to meet good friend candidates is by doing things you already like to do. Yes, this does mean possibly walking into a new environment by yourself, but you’re probably not the only person traveling solo. Go to a new club and don’t be afraid to talk to people — after all, you already have something in common. The same thing goes for your classes. Everyone in there is going through a similar experience, and you can use that as a conversation starter.
2. Identify your new buddy
Look around at people in your new activity and class. Be really open and make sure you are trying to talk to everyone around you. Don’t judge people too early and take the time to talk with a wide rage of people. Obviously, you will meet some people you don’t click with, but at least that helps narrow down whom you want to be around.
3. Get to know them
Once you meet the person or people you want to be friends with, start asking questions. Don’t get too personal too quickly, as you can come off a little creepy, but take an interest in their life and the things going on in it. If they tell you they love their English teacher, ask about how their essays are going.
4. Contact them outside of convenient context
You may get into the pattern of talking to people only when you see them at weekly meetings or in class. Break out of that cycle by sending a text. It can be something silly like that you saw a movie you know they like on television. Make contact so they know you’re thinking about them.
5. Hang out with them
Engage in an outside activity. Go to an event or a movie or anything entertaining. Making memories with someone is a great way to solidify a friendship.
6. Be open with them
Communicate with them openly. Be honest and let them in on what you’re feeling. Real friendships stem from trust, so trust your new friend and open up!
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